I don’t love him anymore—-is it the pregnancy?

My boyfriend and I are both divorced and have finally entered a relationship (with each other) we deserve. We both went wild post divorce, kissed a few frogs, and did some soul searching, only to end up happy with each other. It’s hard dating after divorce so I was relieved to find love again with him.

A year after we moved in together (almost exactly) and about 2 years after dating, I accidentally got pregnant. It wasn’t a terrible surprise. We discussed abortion but we both felt like our relationship and finances were too stable to justify abortion. He said he did plan on starting a family with me within the next couple of years, so it gave me all the more reason to feel ready for this big step with him.

Sure enough this pregnancy has been a lot harder than I expected. I have hyperemesis and I’m absolutely exhausted because I still work full time. I’ve become very depressed and isolated and I’m not sure why.

He has totally stepped up and has taken over all of the household chores I used to do myself. For instance, he cooks, does laundry, cleans and walks the dog every single day. These are things I’d never seen him do pre-pregnancy. If I try to help he insists I rest and relax. He also stays home with me every night. We used to go out together or separately pretty frequently, but he expressed to me that the pregnancy has made him feel differently about being in certain crowds/environments. Super sweet.

Well, the actions are there, and I couldn’t be more thankful, but the emotional support isn’t. I don’t mean that he doesn’t know how to console me when I’m stressed or sad, I mean he actually becomes furious with me. My car was totaled in a parking lot hit and run yesterday, and I came home devastated and in tears. He told me to stop acting like a child and “grow the fuck up.” Even in more minor situations, like when I get frustrated by puking nonstop and end up in tears, he’ll turn his music up louder in the bedroom and tell me to “deal with it yourself” when I ask him if he could just hold me.

I started sleeping on the couch last night because I’ve become scared to express my feelings to him, or even be around him to be honest. This morning he was so sad to see that I never came to bed with him and cried to me that he’s so sorry and that he’s trying (I told him his attitude when I need him is ruining us). Then he said something interesting: “it’s just so strange for me to see you like this, your independence is what made me fall in love with you.” I just sighed and left for work. He’s too hard to express my feelings to because he takes it as an attack/me not appreciating what he does for me, so I didn’t even bother talking to him.

Long story short, I’m absolutely miserable, lonely, depressed, and I don’t love him like I used to. Could this just be a hormonal thing on my end, or do you ladies think he’s really the problem?

Ps: he keeps using the word “pathetic” when I get emotional. “You’re fucking pathetic,” “grow up you’re really pathetic to be crying cause you’re sick”