Advice on home visitors needed please!! 🦠

Hey ladies! As we get down to the final few weeks, I’d love to get insight on your thoughts for having home visitors once your little peanut is born! Here’s the quick background...

My area has seen record (and quite frankly very dangerous) flu and other virus numbers this season. Warnings are going out everywhere from schools, hospitals, daycares, etc. My 18 month old son has had to battle one ugly virus after another from daycare and being around family who are super affectionate (Fevers, vomiting, diarrhea, the works...) My heart breaks for him right now...

My gut is telling me to cut ties on all home visits once this little peanut is born for just a week or two in order to give her a chance to acclimate to the world, build some immunity, and make sure she’s progressing well by the pediatrician before we allow any home visitors to see her. I know that sounds so drastic, but the strength of these bugs around here right now would, without a doubt, land her right back in the hospital and I don’t want that for her.

If I could trust that our family and friends would be smart enough to wash hands and stay out of her face with kissing, I’d never consider the idea but they don’t at all. I’ve asked them to be cautious with my son when he‘s in the stages of recovering from illnesses and they blatantly disregard me, tossing him right back under with another bug.

If I do this, they’re going to freak out. I’m not trying to bar them away, I just want to give my daughter a chance to get her feet on the ground before she’s ambushed by everything she’s going to get hit with. My husbands family is close and when my son was born, we counted over 32 different people in and out of our house (self invited I might add) before he was even five days old. The love is great please don’t get me wrong, but it was so overwhelming for me as a new mom. Luckily it was late May and we could sit outside, but I worried nonstop. I see the same happening again and it’s making me so uneasy with it being this time of year.

Grandparents and such will obviously be visiting at the hospital, so this mainly pertains to extended family and beyond...

Thoughts?!?

Signed,

Just a mommy trying to follow her gut and protect her peanut for a little bit 😔