Mamas of toddlers...advice is needed

My 2 yo baby girl screams bloody murder getting her hair washed. Like blood curdling screams.

She doesn’t want her hair done at all but not doing it isn’t an option either.

I’m at a loss here. I have a background in hair so you name the detangler I have it— same with conditioners, etc.

It’s so bad that she on my gets her hair done once a month (shampoos included) and now it triggers my anxiety.

Idk what to do.

I need advice, prayers, empathy...I’ll take whatever y’all got!!

It’s much longer and thicker now...pictures just for reference.