My boyfriend wants oral right after having our daughter. Am I wrong for saying no cause I'm not getting anything in return?

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We've been together for 7 years and I recently had our daughter (it was an easy labor and delivery...no major concerns). Well I was still on pelvic rest and couldn't have sex. He gets a raging hard on and asked if I would give him oral to help. I told him I didn't think it was very fair cause I'm not getting anything but to finish him and roll over and maybe get some sleep between a crying newborn's feedings. 
Am I wrong for saying no??? He's really upset by it.

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I feel like you just doing it just cuz you're not getting any is kinda childish.. if you're not in the mood then that's fine but don't make it like a game

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I think you should give oral only if you want to.

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It's not wrong to say no to anything sex any time you don't want to have it.
Although I don't think I view intimacy the same way... I enjoy just giving sometimes. 
However I don't have a child & perhaps I'd feel a lot different if I had to be woken up that often. Perhaps you're giving too much of yourself already in various ways. 
I think it's inappropriate to get mad at your partner for declining sex. Your partner is in the wrong there. I can understand feeling frustrated, but you both deserve autonomy and respect. It's wrong to expect sexual gratification from a partner whenever you want it.

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I couldn’t imagine being in a relationship where I was only willing to pleasure my husband if I got something out of it. Making my husband happy makes me happy. I never initiate sex with the concerns of what’s in it for me. 🙄

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Your reasons for saying no are wrong.

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You’re not wrong for saying no. But your reasons make you sound bad. If you told him you just weren’t in the mood or simply just don’t want to, he probably wouldn’t be upset. But it’s probably hurtful to him that you only do it if you’re gonna get something in return instead of just doing it sometimes because you care about him and want to make him happy.

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No, he’s a dick

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Nope. He can do it himself.

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If you don’t feel like giving oral then don’t. You don’t owe him anything.

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I hate that women are telling other women that they exist to please their husband and don’t deserve pleasure in return. What an archaic way of thinking. Women deserve pleasure too. A raging hard on isn’t deadly. He will survive.

My boyfriend wants oral right after having our daughter. Am I wrong for saying no cause I'm not getting anything in return?

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