nagging 🙄

In my relationship I feel like I’m always the one “complaining” to my bf about stuff.

For example, I told him that I would appreciate it if he would initiate FaceTime calls sometimes because its always me calling him. He said “okay I will”. It’s been a couple weeks and he hasn’t done it once. (The reason we FaceTime is cuz we’re in school and work so it’s hard to see each other)

I told him I’d appreciate it if he would initiate sex from time to time cuz it’s always me doing it. He’s either tired and will “do it later”, or he’s “not feeling well” (which is false, he’s just “tired” again). He always has an excuse to postpone sex til later or just be a buzzkill. My schedule is way more hectic than his so there’s no reason for him to be more tired than I am, if at all. I think he can suck it up for 10min.

I told him that I would appreciate it if he would actually get me off during sex and I’ve given him pointers to help but nothing is happening, not even close. So the other day he said “it’s been a while since you’ve given me a blowjob”, so I said “yeah well it’s been 8 months and you still haven’t made me orgasm sooo”.

I feel like I’m always doing everything for him/us and that he doesn’t reciprocate it enough. I try to talk to him about it and he listens but then doesn’t do anything. I don’t like being the only one nagging him to do simple things. AND THEN HE DOESN’T DO IT

I’ve tried the whole telling him how I feel and whatnot but it’s gotten me nowhere.

I’m at a loss here... any advice please?

(Btw we’re in our 20’s, he’s a few years older than me)