Rant about marriage (just needing to vent)

Being parents has been the hardest thing on my relationship with my husband. We never ever fought before having our baby. Now we bicker all the time. I know it’s because we’re stressed and so busy. We have been trying to do date nights 2x a month but it’s still so hard. We respond quickly to each other and I feel like we’re just not nice to each other.

My husband works hard and provides for us, but at home I feel like he doesn’t help with the baby. I work full time as well. He helps with the house meaning helps with dinner or doing other chores, but he hasn’t changed a diaper or fed the baby since she was 6 weeks old. I’m not sure if I just need to change my perception or what. He snapped at me this morning for the stupidest thing. I was packing my lunch & getting the babies stuff ready for day, our baby was eating breakfast but was just playing with her eggs rubbing her eye and I said “can you clean her hands and take her out she’s just playing now” he didn’t respond at all stood up and from my side look like he was walking away, so I said again “can you wash her hands I’m doing this!” And he snapped at me like “yes master of course” and I was like listen you didn’t reply to me and I need help I’m doing everything this morning. He of course took that as he does nothing blah blah blah so I didn’t say anything and like fifteen mins later i said I was sorry for telling him what to do I just needed help and he hadn’t replied to me so I wasn’t sure he heard me. He then didn’t accept the apology and told me I boss him around, so I’m like wtf I’m trying to apologize and you’re not even accepting it!!

I’m just frustrated and tired and it makes me sad that sometimes I’m so unhappy with my marriage. I love him and know this is temporary but sometimes it’s so hard to fight for our marriage and all the pressure of being a mom.