SAHMs

To the stay at home moms- how do you get anything done? I’m legitimately asking. I only have one child. She’s 20 months. And I feel like I cannot get anything done!! I play with her a lot but then I have to clean up, do the dishes, laundry etc and if i start doing any of that she starts to destroy stuff for attention, gets into trouble, or whines and whines and whines until I go back to play with her. So I just don’t do the housework that needs to get done. Because what’s the point of running around all day trying to get stuff done, just to get stuff undone by her. When my husband comes home he doesn’t understand why I couldn’t get anything done when I was home all day. To his defense, when he’s watching her, she is SO much more behaved than when she’s with me. I’m tossed between not wanting to spoil her with too much attention/preventing her from learning to play on her own, and not giving her enough attention and making her frustrated. I’ve tried having her “help me” with stuff like folding the laundry and all she does is undo and destroy it. Im not against a little screen time. Ive put on a couple shows for her but as soon as I go in the other room she follows me. There has to be a secret to getting stuff down because I know there are moms with multiple kids who can do it! I eventually want another baby but I’m so stressed at the thought of that because I feel like im at my breaking point every day with just this situation and it’ll only get harder. Sometimes I doubt that I’m actually cut out for this mom/wife stuff 😔