Boyfriend and Strip Clubs

So, I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half, and he knows how I feel about strip clubs. I know some of you may not care if yours goes, but to me, I don’t like when he goes. And we’ve talked about how I feel about it before, yet he doesn’t agree...he went to one over the summer last year, and hid it from me because he already knew how I felt about it. But then a few weeks later, I found out about it and he completely denied everything even when he had a shirt that had the name and logo and everything on it!! But finally after a while he admitted to it because he knew I caught him and he couldnt lie about going anymore...he also went to another one in January, still knowing, and knowing more deeply of how I felt about it after finding out about him lying the first time, and tried hiding that from me as well, but I also found out about that one..same thing, denied denied denied, until finally he gave up because he knew I knew that he went...fast forward to today, we somehow got on the topic, and last summer when we got into the huge fight about it, he swore up and down that he didn’t touch the girl during the dance, that you weren’t allowed to touch them...well today, when we were on the topic, I caught him lying again, because he said something about how some strip clubs let you touch the girls boobs, and I was like “so you were touching her boobs when you went?” And he goes “no, not at that one, you only could touch their butts” and I was like “wait, so you were touching her butt?” And he goes “yeah, so?” And then I said it again and he goes “no, at that one, you weren’t allowed to touch them.” So?? Why’d he basically admit to touching her butt then completely deny it and say you couldn’t touch at all? I’m incredibly insecure and he knows that, and hearing him say that, made me a lot more insecure...I was already upset and hurt enough that he went, why’d he have to go into further detail and hurt me more...? He also had told me that the one he went to last summer, he only got one or two dances because he was out of money, so he called his mom to see if she’d send him some money so he could get some more dances...but his mom didn’t send them because she knew that him even being there would hurt me. But, he would have stayed longer and gotten more had he had money, so he only left when he did because he didn’t really have another option, which hurts me and makes me feel like crap...Do I believe him when he said that he wasn’t allowed to touch the girls or is he lying?

*ALSO** I don’t want any hate for this. Yes I know some couples and significant others are okay with their SO going, and that’s fine, but my boyfriend knows how I feel about it, so I feel like he should respect how I feel...if he doesn’t like something I do, then I respect that and stop doing it, so shouldn’t it be the same way in return?

***each time he went was with his cousin, not by himself **

***hes also 19, almost 20, and I’m 18...the first time he went, it was when he was on vacation for a week with his cousin (who had just turned 18), and his cousins dad and sisters...***