Why is my mom like this?!?!

My mom and i spoke on the phone the other day and she kept going on about how school isn't an option for me anymore especially since i am going to have two kids. Im 22 years old and have a 16 month old and will be giving birth in 3 months. It just really annoyed me because just because someone has kids, it doesnt mean their life is over or that they can't make a future for themselves. Its annoying that she has that mindset and it pisses me off that she would even say that. Not only that, but she kept trying to convince me to give all of my partners and i savings money to her and my brother to hold onto. Like what?? I will NOT give you my money to hold especially when i can do it myself. There is no reason my brother and mom need to touch my money and control my money when i have a family of my own. Sometimes she says some stupid shit in hopes that i will listen, but in reality it is nonsense. There was one instance where my brothers and i and my mom were all together, and with the whole coronavirus thing, my boyfriend is temporarily laid off until the state stay at home order is lifted, but i still have my job (working reduced hours though) at a restaurant working takeout. She was going on about how if i was with an asian man (im asian and my boyfriend is white) that he wouldnt let me work and that i wouldnt have to work. My brothers and i looked at her like dude wtf??? It has nothing to do with skin color or race! Im working because im able to work, and it isnt my boyfriends fault that he isn't able to! Plus i do not want to be a stay at home mom, neither can we even afford to. Sometimes i want to ask her why she says so much stupid shit. She tries yo get so much bullshit lodged into my head, its fucking annoying!!!