Who has name rights

I am going to be the first to say losing a child at any point is very sad. My experiences with it have led me to my beliefs in how to grieve and still keep living my life.

I got a phone call from a family member tonight asking about the initials of my future nephew. Saying they saw a fb post with his initials and asking me if I knew the name the parents choose.

This family memeber never will have any living children of her own. She miscarried many years ago and decided it was a boy and named it. I think that has helped her from her grief process. The day she found out she was pregnant she miscarried and lost a floupian tube in the process. So understandably it was her only experience as a mom and one that is very sad.

Also shared that lots of people share names but that love for her son doesn't take away from the love of someone else's son.

This family member said that it was the same initials they choose for their son. That she was having spriling attack of emotions. She explained if it was her son's name she would want them to ask her.

To have a family member demand to know an unborn baby's name. Then to ask for permission if it would be the same. Really just was shocking to me. These people don't really speak to eachother. I just couldn't understand how she couldn't be happy for my nephew to be born from parents who had multiple miscarriages as well.

How would you of handled this situation at 11pm at night. I am still so upset I cannot sleep. I hope she doesn't call them and upset them demanding to know names of their unborn son.