I just don’t know what to do

My brother suffers from extreme ocd and anxiety. Refuses medication because of possible side effects(he’s tried everything besides medication and nothing works). He does nothing all day, stopped going to college, doesn’t work, watches movies all day ect. Corona has set his ocd off.

There was an incident a few nights ago when my mom set off his ocd and he flipped out. He was screaming at her to leave(it was 1 am) so she did because she couldn’t take it anymore. She went to a parking lot and just sat in the car. When he finally went to sleep around 2:30 am she snuck back in and slept on the couch because she wasn’t comfortable sleeping in the parking lot. Then she left at 7 am and stayed away from the house. She pretended she slept in her car the whole night.

During that time he tried to destroy my sisters wedding veil telling me he feels that we care more about it than him(I asked him not to destroy it because it was an expensive gift from our aunt and he didn’t). My mom tells me she has a call into the therapist to see what she can do because she’s done dealing with the verbal abuse. Also said we’re going to my grandparents beach house for awhile to get away.

My mom eventually came home and after he told her to leave yet again and he doesn’t want her coming back she told him she was staying.

He eventually relents and tells her she can stay. He hasn’t been home all weekend which I assume is why he let her stay.

I asked my mom if she spoke to the therapist yet and she basically was like “oh no, I think I know why he acted this way he was having social anxiety about seeing his friends” and she never spoke to her.

I asked when we would be going down and she said my aunt was down for the weekend with friends and we would go when they left on Sunday. Then later on goes “oh I forgot your brother has a hair appointment Monday so after I take him to that”(my other aunt cuts his hair at her house so my mom typically goes with him)

I’m sick of him being verbally abusive to her and then her just forgetting and doing things for him. She should not be taking him to get his hair cut.

Guarantee she’ll decide we don’t need to go anymore because he’s fine now(until he decides to blow up over something she did)