Mom touching my son

Update #2 she tried to text me being all normal. So this is what happened. She still didn’t even try to apologize or make me feel at ease. She was throwing me a surprise baby shower which has nothing to do about her touching my son or the comment she made. She is just mad I caught her and is throwing stuff at me to say to get off of the real point here. I r had issues with my husbands family but those are things you can get past. This is not. I feeel like she’s trying to justify that I called her over that day so it’s my fault ? That she does favors me that that’s the real issue here ? She is honestly making me have doubts about what I saw or how I felt. But still at the end of the day. She made uncomfortable and I didn’t like the way she touched my son. She ignored it when I told her stop. The feeling in the room the tension that came after you can’t make that shit up. Why would I wanna think that about my own mother. I’m really really hurt here and I just don’t even know anymore.

UPDATE i told my husband about this and he tells me that maybe give it some time but I agree with someone who said she will molest my child by me just trying to be nice. He just doesn’t like to see me hurt so he was suggesting ways to try to fix this. I told him there is no coming back from this. These are my babies I need to protect them. She wasn’t a great mother but that doesn’t mean I need to fall into that category. I was molested by a few family members and it’s because my parents weren’t there. I’ve always told myself I never ever want my kids to go through even half the stuff I’ve been through in my life. (Hard childhood) so when this happened it hurt and cut deep in my soul and even more so because it’s my own mother. I’m trying to keep calm because I’m pregnant and I don’t wanna add stress to my baby. I’ve crying all day trying to swallow that this is it with me and mom. Our relationship is done. Gone. But as much as this hurts me my kids safety is far more important. I will manage and be fine. I’m just glad I saw it with my eyes and am able to stop it before something worse or time goes by and years go by. He’s still small so he doesn’t understand and won’t remember

It does make me question the few times she has watched him. She only has watched him a few times while me and my husband run to the store literally like 45 mins but I’m trying not to beat my self up I can’t change what has happened and I have no proof because she has never done this to me or acted this way before. All I can do is move forward and protect my kids from now on. Thank you ladies so much. My heart aches. But I’m glad I wasn’t just overreacting and my instincts didn’t fail me. I have really bad anxiety so I just needed some more options on it.

never ever write posts like this but I need some insight and just some comfort.

Some history my mom didn’t raise my most of my life. Her and my dad were heavy drug users. I was in-fact born a prepme because of her drug use leaving me with so many health issues today as an adult. So our relationship has always been on & off. Up and down.

I have a son who is 1yr and half he loves his gramma so much and I’ve never questioned her or mistrusted her ever before.

The other day my mom came over to my house to play with my son while I washed for the week.

I came back inside from down stairs putting the clothes in & she mad a comment about my son “he’s going to be a pervert when he grows up I tickled his legs and he didn’t react”

I thought this was weird but I just left it alone because my mom says so far out there stuff.

Anyways imfolding laundry and my son is standing next to her and she is rubbing the inside of his thighs like creating him over his diaper. At first I thought it’s tripping but I kept watching she was doing it in a very way I felt uncomfortable with. So I told her to stop touching him like that. I move him away. She doesn’t say anything just keeps watching tv. My son goes back up to her and she does it again. I take him away and she just sits like nothing happened. Gets up and says she has to go.

Now I’ve never thought of my mom in this light before so I was having a hard time figuring out if I really saw what I saw or maybe she didn’t hear me say stop.

She then calls me and the energy is all the way off she’s being rude and passive aggressive

I try not to answer her but she is blowing my phone up more then usual

She was supposed to take me to a dr apt on Monday for my daughter (22 weeks pregnant) but calls me and says she can’t because of work. She keeps trying to call me and be normal like nothing happened but I can’t be myself anymore. I finally text her to give me space and this is the response. She was supposed to watch my son when I give birth to my baby. Obviously I already changed my mind. I didn’t reply after this. I just feel shocked and confused :(

She is telling someone about this because that last message wasn’t meant for me