Thinking of separation

Most of the time I can’t stand my husband, and the rest of the time I feel like I tolerate him. He talks like he’s in a frat house or a junior high locker room, even around our 15 month old. His idea of a “joke” is to repeat something I say about food or the weather adding the words “lick it off my cock”. He farts everywhere constantly and thinks its hysterical. He will only watch American pickers or South Park, knowing that I don’t like either.

He’s so unappreciative of the housework, cooking and care of our son, especially given we both work full-time only his bosses don’t notice when he takes a few hours or a whole day off unofficially. He keeps telling me I should just get a new job even though I have a pretty great job by most ppls standards only they actually expect me to work.

Our son hasn’t been sleeping well lately and even though we switch off, if I’m up with the baby half the night and my husband has to get up with him after that he has the nerve to complain that I get to sleep “12 hours a day”. I have a sleep app. I got 7.5 hours of sleep last night. The night before...I got up with my son in the night and then he managed to sleep 9 hours so my husband actually literally got to sleep 11 hours and had the nerve to claim the opposite.

I don’t want my son to think this is normal, but I also hate the idea of him being ONLY with him for any period of time. Just so tired of how obnoxious he is

Update

he is FORTY YEARS OLD!!!! And yes it’s real unfortunately. And my only response is “what is wrong with you” when he says such things. He also likes to pee outside of our home for some reason rather than in the toilet to “save the septic system”. And I just finally got him to stop literally dumping dryer lint and vacuumed pet hair into our front flower garden that I maintain. This has been the cause of monthly arguments for years.