Am I being insensitive?
It is extremely difficult to live with my Uncle for my family and I. He has finished our spices, cooks most of our food, then makes tamales to go and sell it. Keep in mind the tamales are not even being cooked properly half the time. Whenever he makes money he buys chips and juice, never food. When we make food he’ll say “ugh again?” Like dude wtf if you don’t like it why DoNt you buy food for a change?! I have to hide everything I bought because he will get things(he never asks) and it’s cost me a lot of money, I have over $200 worth of supplies for my small business, and it sucks because I have everything inside of my bedroom it’s filled, and uncomfortable to be in. I’m just very stressed. My dad doesn’t like to complain about him eating or getting our food to sell it but I think he is starting to crack too. The first thing my dad told him was that he didn’t have to pay rent but that he just didn’t want him to drink. Well, you guessed it, he didn’t care and has drank alcohol on 5 different occasions that we know of. He always drives off without saying anything, I can usually tell because he will go overboard on cologne when he never even uses any and he’ll stay outside. When my dad confronts him he gets angry, and gets all sarcastic. He also Complains when we go out saying we love to go out but we are always being very safe, wearing masks, applying hand sanitizer at all tes, etc. HE DOES NOT EVEN WEAR A MASK WHICH INFURIATES ME. He also goes to restroom and doesn’t wash his hands. He got all of our things from the kitchen and put them in drawers we don’t use because they’re rotten(my grandmas house is VERY old we don’t have enough money to fix it up at the moment) and he adjusted his stuff all nice and practically just threw our stuff everywhere. We still have a hard time finding our stuff. He Burps with his mouth open but screams at the same time? farts at any time, leaves the dishes dirty but hangs them up as if they’re clean, wants my dad to make him a bedroom just the way he wants, lays on the living room couch all day(he doesn’t have a room here because there’s no room) I sleep in the same room as my brother and my parents sleep in the same room as my Grandma. He makes food at any hour of the night especially around 2 or 3 am leaves the house smelling terrible, gets bitchy with my dad, my mom is missing some of her stuff, he’s always in my grandmas room, my parents and brotherwent out to but something at McDonald’s and he thought we all had left and he went into my grandmas room and was there for a longer time than usual and when he came out he looked into the room i was in and said oh you’re there. I just said yeah, weirded out. He always talks about women and how he wants one really young. One time he had said my age (18) He didn’t say it in front of me though, my aunt came and told us. But then one time I was in the living room with my parents and he said more like 25 up to 30 mind you hes 60. I understand age is just a number but 18 makes me uncomfortable. He recently got “fired” from his job and its the second time he has been accused of sexual harassment. he’s always saying things like oh I want a girl. Basically to have sex with, So, when my parents go out I stay with my grandma in her room to take care of her, he always goes into the room. I close the door but he doesn’t get the hint and he’ll knock and ask if she’s fine. I’ll say yes, and he’ll leave but sometimes he’ll ask to come in. And I’m like sure. And he’ll talk to her, sometimes sit with her. Buttttt, one time I was in my brother and I’s room and he turned and saw me, and saw the door to my grandmas room closed and said”is your brother in there with your grandma” I said yes. He just turned around and walked away. Like wtf when it’s me taking care of her you always bother, and consistently do it. But when it’s my brother he doesn’t check?!! My brother is 14 btw so it can’t be that he “trusts” him more. Idk that was pretty weird to me. I told my parents by mentioning it in conversation subtly but they don’t say much. I don’t think they think anything of it but I do feel like I need to be cautious sometimes. I just don’t feel comfortable around him all the time. Sometimes I do cause he acts normal but idk. Maybe I’m just overthinking it. I don’t want to tell my dad I feel uncomfortable cause then it will turn into a whole thing, and he’ll get mad and think that I’m only saying that cause I want him to get out because I side with my mom a lot of the time. It’s a hard situation cause that’s his brother. Sometimes my dad gets really angry and says he’s gonna talk to him, sometimes he does, but mostly he doesn’t. its getting to be too much. I hate to get angry because he has nothing, he came here because all he has is his car, which he still needs to pay my aunt back because she lent him money. He owes my aunt about 2,500. He has a gambling addiction but he refuses to accept it, that is why he has no money now which is truly terrible. But what is the worst is that he is not careful. He always tells my dad that its not fair that we go out and when he does we tell him to be careful. He is always coughing and burping without covering his mouth, God forbid he has the disease, he will infect us all especially my 92 year old granmother. All of my family has other problems like diabetes, high blood pressure, asthma, and heart problems, if he were to get sick it would go terrible for all of us. He goes to a store to sell tamales that arent always well made and my dad tells him he cant be doing that but he doesn’t care. It just infuriates me, how are we supposed to know if he is well or not if he’s always sick. I feel bad for him cause he has nothing, not even his son wants to speak to him, and his daughter is in jail again. Its just a lot. What are your thoughts? Am I insensitive? I don’t know what to do. He is in my grandmothers house which is where we have been living for the past 8 years to take care of my grandmother because she has Alzheimer’s and has gotten to the point that she cannot walk or do anything herself. My father has guardianship so he has a say. But of course he doesn’t want to tell my uncle to go somewhere else because he cares about him, which I totally understand, we just hope that he gets housing so that he can live somewhere else.
Ohhh almost forgot. Our neighbors that live in front of us, told my mom that he was staring at their daughters. One is my age the other ones younger. I don’t know what to think. Anything helps. Love ya girlys💗💗
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