Fathers Access

Ok, so me and my ex split in February this year. He just upped and left and said he wanted a divorce. He was actually seeing another woman.

Anyway, he is living at his mother's house just around the corner and was seeeing our 2 children (2½ year old girl and 8 month old boy) on a Sunday for 4 hours.

He will only have both of them there if his sister and mother are there as he cannot cope with them both on his own.

Last weekend he took just our daughter as he was only his own and couldn't manage them both. He bought her back after 2 hours and said she was crying for me the whole time. So I've said I don't want her there alone again.

I dread when they go over to him, as he is VERY irresponsible. He would never bring harm to them, but he is very dipsy and doesn't think. For example, he leaves the door open which leads onto a very busy road. Our daughter could get out easily.

He feeds our 8 month old food that he could easily choke on. If they refuse food he will let them starve. He was playing football on the beach with our little girl. The ball ran off and she ran towards the sea. He chased after the ball, not her! Its just silly things like this that I worry about and I worry about their welfare.

If his phones goes off, he will tend to that and not watch his children. He is very superficial and vein and always looking at and taking pictures of himself.

The list is endless of the stupid wreckless things he has done.

Oh and he shouted at our boy to shut up when he was only a few weeks old. All because he was disturbing his playstation time! He is never 100% focused in the kids when he has them.

I've now told him that if he wants to see the children, he can come to mine one evening in the week and a couple of hours on a Sunday. For me, its a safeguarding issue and I dread when they're out with him.

Do you agree? Or am I being to safety conscious?