Year 7

I've heard that year 7 is the hardest in marriage. I'm really struggling with my husband right now. I try to be very clear in telling him how I feel, how his actions and dismissive, condescending attitude makes me feel, and it's like he doesn't hear me. I'm saying the same things over and over and over again and he's still not hearing me...I try and have actual conversations with him that aren't just about work and kids and he's not present its like pulling teeth trying to get anything out of his head and he goes "well you have to ask more specific questions" . Last night was our anniversary, I asked him not to play his stupid video game for once since its all he does anymore and wanted to rent a movie with him to just enjoy each other's company for once. What did he do......played his video game and then when I confronted him and expressed to him how disappointed I was he just scoffs and gaslights me. I'm really unhappy, we've tried couples counseling but he doesn't want to go back anymore. I love him and don't want to leave him, I want to get through this tough spot but I just don't know what to do.