How do you balance out the love between 2 kids?

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I know it may sound bad, but hear me out.
I am 8 months pregnant with my second daughter. 
My first is 1 years old. Every since she has arrived, I’ve had this unconditionally love for her and I’ve gotten closer than I feel like anyone has ever been with their child. I love her so much and I’ve definitely spoiled her to the point she’s the same way towards me. Only issue is I’m stuck how to feel about the second baby coming. I feel terrible, because at the end of the day this is my baby too. She deserves the same love, I just don’t know how to balance the love out between them both especially without having my LO feel left out or mommy doesn’t love her anymore. 
Any advice?

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You’re definitely not the only mother to get close to her child. 
When your baby comes you will realise that love is not about sharing. You don’t have a finite amount of it. More love will come

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It’s not a conscious thing, you don’t actively try to share out your life equally, it just happens. 
I never thought I could love anyone as much as I love our daughter...but then our son came along. I love him just as much. Some days I do favor one over the other, if one of them is being a sh*t, but I’ve never felt like I don’t love them both equally

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I was worried about the same thing before I had my second. But we just found a way. 🤷🏻‍♀️ She was a good sleeper so while she slept, I'd spent extra time wihh my first. Then while my first slept, I spent extra time with my second. We're also still bed sharing with the second so I have all night with her. And while they're both awake I try to get the oldest interacting with her. Or while the oldest is in her highchair eating, I'll be on the floor with her sister showing her that the little one needs mommy's love too. When they both need mommy, I usually end up on the floor with one in each arm. (ring slings are AMAZING!)
You'll figure it out. It's not something you need to plan or worry about and each day will be a little different depending on each babies phases. You aren't the first or the last mama to go through this. You can do this. 💪

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I have 2 and love them both equally, my heart just grew into a giant. Imagine when your 1st daughter was born, how did you feel? Now imagine that she is born again, a second time. And all the love you have for her is being repeated, only you also have her as a toddler as well. You have two of her! That’s how it is. Your 2nd will be a different baby, but it will be that exact same feeling of love. 
You may not have as much energy or attention for your 1st in the beginning especially the first month or two, but she’ll grow to love her sibling so much that she’s not losing anything, just gaining. When I see my toddler hugging or playing or laughing with her baby brother, it makes me so happy.

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It just seems hard to fathom to you right now. You won’t have to consciously try to love your other child. It happens automatically just like it did with your first.

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This is completely normal, how you’re feeling. 
My son and I had an intense love for each other. I understand completely what you mean about you and your first daughter. 
When I was pregnant with my second (a girl) I had anxiety about how it was possible to love another child the same way. 
The moment I heard her cry and they placed her in my arms, the anxiety melted away. 
As the months passed, my heart only got bigger and my love for both of them are the same. 
You will develop your own relationship with your second. You just have to give it a chance.

How do you balance out the love between 2 kids?

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