Can someone tell me what the middle ground looks like? (Covid)

We have tried to be really diligent since this all began to not be within 6 ft of anyone outside of our household for nonessential reasons. We have done some outdoor activities where social distancing can be maintained, which I feel comfortable with, but that’s it.

We currently live about 12 hours from family (who we haven’t seen since Christmas) but in a couple months will be moving back to that area. When we get there (& especially thinking about the holidays) the weather isn’t going to be ideal for outdoor activities. Obviously we want to spend time with family & some of our very close friends that live in the same area, but I just don’t see how we can do so without just totally giving up on trying to be safe. Unfortunately everyone we would want to see has a much bigger circle (it’s not a circle actually because it’s open indefinitely) than we feel comfortable with. For example, my in-laws, they keep my niece & nephew every other weekend. So they are exposed to them, every family in their class at school, the families of their 1/2 siblings class mates, their siblings mom & step dad, each of their dad’s clients (probably 10-20 per day), plus any social things they are doing outside of that. So that 2 quickly multiplies to about 200. In laws are also having weekly dinners with a few different friends who I could do the same thing with, but you get it.

I feel like a crazy person to just flat so no we wont do anything or see anyone, but I just don’t see the middle ground or how we can do so safely.