MIL gone wild

I used to be close with my MIL! We talked all the time and got along well. When I became pregnant with our first, my second, she called much more often but that was fine! I wasn’t working and had the time and appreciated how much she cared. Once baby was here, she started giving a lot of her two cents when it wasn’t wanted or necessary and it became very frustrating so I started pushing away a little.

Now I’m pregnant with our second, and she is... something else. She’s requesting we do two weekly zoom calls so all of the grandkids can see each other and then my husband and I call her once a week to FaceTime and update her on our lives. She wants this at exact times and dates.

My husband works 14 hours a day 6 days a week, I work 30 hours a week from home, with an older child doing virtual learning, a toddler, and I’m 8 months pregnant! So safe to say we are busy and haven’t made many of her “meetings.”

Now she’s leaving voicemails and texts saying she expects us to get back to her ASAP and if we don’t or have to decline she ignores us altogether for a period of time.

My husband usually ignores the behavior but it’s happening so often now that even he is questioning where is this entitlement coming from? Why does she feel like she has the right to just tell us when and where to be at a place or just having the expectation she deserves that from us 24/7? It’s seriously making our relationship dreadful and I just want to avoid it altogether. If that makes me a terrible daughter in law so be it but I don’t have the energy! Anyone else deal with something similar?