Help! How would you move forward?

I initiated a conversation with my husband. Basically, I told him that I wanted to talk about our future regarding our child, if we were to ever split or divorce. (We are in a great place, we have our ups and downs but it’s a very mature relationship and I love him more than life and never want any other man. He’s the love of my life. He’s good to me.) We’ve been trying for a year to get pregnant. After 3 early losses, I’m finally 18 weeks pregnant.

So, I wanted to be on the same page for our child’s well-being. Things like: Fair custody, never putting our child in the middle, what we expect out of potential step parents if we choose to be with other people, etc.

He seemed very shut off from this talk and was very adamant on us never getting a divorce or splitting. He told me that us failing as partners is never an option, that we must never stop working on our marriage. That there’s nothing we can’t work through. I told him I feel the exact same way.

So I kind of just dropped it and I’m unsure how to feel, haha.

And to be clear, I don’t think divorce is an option, really. I’m just being realistic I guess. I witness a lot of parents who split and it’s hard for the kids. I was a victim of it myself, my parents split was so nasty.