Trouble orgasming

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a while and he’s great. Honestly my ideal guy, smart, handsome, funny and he’s great in bed. I just find it difficult to come during sex and I know it’s not him. He’s super accommodating, always trying new positions that I might like and sometimes I feel really close but we always wind up using the sure-fire way which ( Sorry a bit TMI) involves me rubbing my clit and him fingering me. I think I might be a bit of an orgasm control freak because I have trouble letting him take the wheel, but I think he’s putting a bit of pressure on himself to make me cum through penetrative sex and it’s making him enjoy it less. I feel like because of stress and work our sex life has kinda lost the magic, as I’m now stressed about life and not orgasming.

I really want to figure this out for both my enjoyment and his because we have something special and I don’t want something that can be solved pretty easily to get in the way. Any advice ??