Help- what does communication look like in a healthy relationship?

Question

My last relationship was so toxic and we communicated the wrong way. He wanted to know where I was all the time, when I was leaving my house (whether for errands, uni, going to see friends etc) and he would always wanna know my plans as soon as I made them with my friends. This was too much but I didnt realize it until we broke up that it wasn’t how I wanted it. 
Now I’m talking to a new guy, and we’ve been talking for a couple months and I feel like we’re close to making it official. But I have no idea what healthy communication looks like. 
How is communication supposed to look?
I know every relationship is different but how do you guys do it? 
Do you always give them a break down of your day? Or like if they ask how your day went/how your day looks, do you just say it was busy and give a few details of the bigger things that happened? 
do you talk to your SO a lot everyday? Like phone them everyday?

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We talk daily but we don’t go over our plans like you’re describing. That actually sounds stressful. We just talk like two friends; two people who happen to love each other. If there’s an issue, we talk about; it sometimes takes more than one convo but eventually we get it worked out.

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For me, it's always looked like a lot of talking. I like talking about my day, I like hearing about my partner's day. The difference is it's conversational, not an interrogation or a report. It's "I'm having an issue" and talking together about it whether the goal is finding a solution or just venting. It's being free to talk about anything without fear of retaliation, getting in trouble, or the other person getting upset. It's being able to say, "I'm going to Courtney's house tomorrow to hang out" because you want to, not because you're "required" to, and the other person saying, "ok, have fun. I might go to Jeff's. I'll let you know."

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Sometimes we’ll have random little phone or FaceTime conversations but we aren’t the kinda couple that texts/talks on the phone all day. Usually see eachother about 3 days a week. We can talk about anything. I think we’re pretty detailed about our days but at the same time we’ll just talk about whatever or nothing at all. We can spend half a day together and it’ll feel like 30mins

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All you have to do is communicate with him and respect each others boundaries. It's that simple. You can even explain to him how toxic your last relationship was, and if hes a good guy, he'll help you get through that

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I’m in a long distance relationship and have been for a couple of years now. For us communicating and listening are main factors for our relationship. We talk about once to twice a day. For us communication isn’t always about where are you going and who are you going with. To us communication is about being able to voice frustrations with the other or discussing differing views and being able to understand the other and find solutions or having meaningful/deep conversations. When talking about our day/plans, I communicate to him about it because I WANT to share it with him. I want to tell him what I did and who I shared it with. If it’s before I do something, I let him know that I’ll be busy for a bit in case he calls and I don’t answer or if I’m excited enough about the plan I tell him about it because, again, I WANT to share it with him. I usually ask him about his day if we talk in the evening and he shares with me what he wants. I don’t pry because I want him to be able to want to tell me things and I want him to be comfortable with telling me things. I go with the mindset that if I don’t want it done to me then I don’t do it to you and I expect the same thing to be applied to me. If we talk in the morning, I usually ask him what his plans are and he’ll typically tell me, but if he doesn’t have plans, I usually wish him a wonderful day with whatever he ends up doing. I hope this helps in any way best of luck to you! 🤍

Help- what does communication look like in a healthy relationship?

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