Opinions

You may have seen my previous post about this. But after reading it back I feel this updated post explains things better.

I currently live about a four hour drive, half hour plane ride away from mine and my s/o home town with my s/o and my 3 month old son.

My mother recently passed away in October and we buried her in said home town.

After my moms funeral, I stayed together with my son for an additional 2 weeks in my hometown with my family. After leaving and coming back to where I live I have been feeling like I should have never left my hometown and would say since being back I don’t feel great about being here (where I live)

I’ve been thinking about moving home with our son and in hopes that my s/o would come with us. He actually was the one that asked me like it was an option for us.

Initially he wanted to come with us, and said it was okay. Then he said he didn’t want to come but myself and our son could go and we would sort out how our family dynamic would change and how we could manage it. We were both willing to make it work with our son.

But after a few phone calls with his family, he is now dead set that he doesn’t want to go and we shouldn’t either.

Said I’m being selfish in wanting to move and taking our son with me.

Am I being selfish if I move anyway? Was it unfair that he changed his mind suddenly? I feel like I’m in a difficult place. I want to be a happier me and to do that I need to move. But I understand that if I do my s/o relationship with our son would change and in that way yes it is selfish.

Do I look after myself first? Happy mum, happy son? Or do I stay so our son will have both his parents around?

Would love to know thoughts.