Would you put up with this?

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My boyfriend is a drug addict. We have been together for 7 years and in that time he developed an addiction to pot, morphine, valium, & worst of all meth, as well as trying cocaine, heroin & fentanyl on multiple occasions. He has shot up, snorted, eaten etc. 
He is clean now (with proof), but one thing I have noticed is that he constantly talks about drugs. I’m talking 24/7. He talks about withdrawals, past drug experiences, little unknown facts about drugs, how to use drugs, his old dealers, information that he’s learned over the years etc. At first I understood that he needed to talk about it to get it off his chest. But lately it’s been truly the only thing he talks about. If we go on a date, he talks about drugs or addiction. If we are laying in bed listening to music, he starts talking about how this song is about drugs and why. If we are having a deep conversation about anything, he always ends up steering the conversation back towards the topic of drugs. He says doing so helps him, but to me it seems like an obsession. 
If it changes anything, we are 22 years old and he is diagnosed with a few mental illnesses. 
Would you put up with/go along with this?

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Overcoming addiction can take a tremendous amount of focus and mental strength. It sounds like talking about it helps him stay focused. Maybe look into possibly having him join a support group or group chat? Maybe that can help him direct and channel that into one source instead of you and loved ones.

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That just what you deal with when you choose to be with an addict/ex addict. Because i am with one, and i can tell you i don't think it's intentional. For my guy, anyway. That's the way he was used to living his life. Try changing the subject. How long has he been sober?

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Have you tried telling him? Maybe he doesn't really realize that he is talking about it that much

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That consumed his life at one point so his life experiences are all related to that unfortunately. It’s like when people talk about their ex’s and don’t mean to but that’s their life experience and what not

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I read the first sentence and already had my answer.

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It gets better over time. How long has he been clean?

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My husband was addicted to pain killers and Xanax and fentanyl and I was so done with it I made him get help. He got on methadone and got better. He never ever ever talks about drugs. He now is only on kratom ever since getting clean which maybe that’s considered a drug to some people but for him it helps a lot. 
I would be annoyed if all he talked about was drugs and his past. I’m sorry girlie!

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It does seem like a bit of an obsession. When I was younger my adopted father was like this over the years it’s gotten better but every now and then I hear about how he almost killed someone who took his cocaine or the time he took so much meth he felt like he was floating. It’s really hard I can’t give you the answer especially because our situations are different. You should ask yourself these “does it drain me?” “Do I feel like myself?” “Do I deserve better?” Because if the answer is yes to any of those it’s not ok. It doesn’t matter what anyone has to say it matters how you’re feeling above all else.

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No. You have way too much life to live to waste it on that.

Would you put up with this?

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