Should I tell my dad he hurt my feelings or just let it go?

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I'm going off to college next year and me and my dad were talking about my major. I knew my dad dropped out of college and I asked if he ever planned on going back since I'm leaving the house and he said "Nah, my dreams went out the door a long time ago." He got quiet and then muttered  "Like 18 years ago." I'm 18.... I knew my dad dropped out because he got my mom pregnant but I didn't know he blamed me for his dreams not working out. He could have been joking but it just really hurt me feelings. Should I say something?
Edit: I did ask him about it and he just said "You are too sensitive. " So I'm guessing he meant it as a joke. It's hard to tell with him sometimes because his joking voice and serious voice are more or less the same.

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Personally i dont think u should take that personally. He didnt say you. But he is being honest that he made a choice that led to him having to take a different direction in life. Thats his own fault... and learn from his mistakes. He got a women pregnant before due time. Alot of parents feel this way and would definitely choose differently and have children later if unexpected so i wouldnt take that personal.
Just be happy he stepped up and took care of you and his responsibilities because alot of children dont have that story.

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You can, but be careful with your approach on it. Just say dad, 
“I know we were talking the other day about college and I’m sorry I stopped that for you. I appreciate all the sacrifices you made for me even if I don’t show it sometimes.”

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I'd mention it...that's not cool and a clear punch to the gut

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First - it’s NOT your fault. Just wanted to clarify that. You were an innocent baby. It’s his fault for getting your mom pregnant. He made the choice to drop out. He could’ve finished college and be a dad if he really wanted to. Some people just like to blame others for their choices. 
Secondly - it’s up to you if you want it addressed. You could say - “hey, were you joking when you said your dreams went out the window 18 years ago or did you mean that? Because that made me feel like I made your life worse or something” and see how he responds. I wouldn’t be confrontational, just ask if it was a joke or not. 
But regardless of his answer - it’s not your fault. 
My dad is a narcissist and blames his cheating on my mom due to my disabled sister. He said life was just too hard because of her. People like him are sick and selfish. It’s obviously not my sisters fault he cheated and it’s obviously not your fault your dads dreams didn’t come true. He chose not to pursue his dreams.

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If it’s something that’s going to bother you there’s no harm in talking to him about it.

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I’d just ask if he was serious. I doubt he was because first of all that was his choice to drop out and second of all, if he’s a good father he’d never say that out loud. I’d chill. Parents are people too... we put them on a pedestal but really they were us once and sometimes shit slips off the tongue.

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Seems he isn’t aware he hurt your feelings & was telling you you’re too sensitive but you’re still entitled to your feelings. I would let it go. I had a fight with my dad a month or so before he died & I feel so bad about it. We definitely talked about it before he passed & I love my dad more than anything but I had no business picking fights or getting upset when my dad was going through chemo & a real fight. I was just going through rough time because I didn’t know how to handle it all. Just let it go. I’m sure your dad loves you very much & does not regret having you. If he wanted to go back, he would. I’m sure he wouldn’t change anything about the last 18 years.

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Does your dad usually joke like that? Either way I think you should tell him that it hurt your feelings. Me personally I wouldn’t be offended if my dad said that but that’s because I know my dad jokes like that.

Should I tell my dad he hurt my feelings or just let it go?

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