How to know when it’s time for divorce

My husband and I have been married for 5 years. We have two children together, one with special needs.

I am at my wits end.

He has always had somewhat controlling tendencies, such as making decisions about the way we are to live our life without consulting me. (For example, I am not allowed to travel without him or hire a babysitter. These are his beliefs, I wouldn’t have a problem with either.) He refuses to acknowledge other people’s viewpoints besides his own or to compromise in any way.

Recently I feel he has also been gaslighting me constantly. I can’t have any sort of conversation at all with

Him without him twisting my words and then telling me how I’m bad at talking and his interpretation is right and I’m wrong, etc.

He yells at me in front of the kids which I find completely unacceptable. Especially my child with special needs who gets extremely Worked up at loud noises.

I try to bring up how I’m struggling with balancing having a baby, a special needs child; a stay at Home Mom with no help, and dealing with all the emotions that come along with a special needs child and he basically shames me and tells me I should be able to handle it and I’m psycho.

This is obviously an unhealthy environment and I feel So

Emotionally Broken. We haven’t had sex in almost 2 years and I cringe when he wants to even hug me.

He has decided he hates my family

And talks shit about them constantly which is draining and taxing.

I feel like he always wants to portray

Himself as this great Guy but really It’s awful. I mentioned couples counseling and he refuses to go.

What would

You Do? what should I do?