My in-laws have been SUPER nasty to me. From the time we got married, my MIL has accused me of snatching my husband away from me. My FIL has accused me and my parents of brainwashing my husband. My dad passed away in 2018 and they didn't even know about it until last year when my husband called and spoke to his dad after nearly 3 years of almost no contact. They only contacted via email seldomly since 2017 since my MIL had blocked me and my husband on whatsapp. Well, my parents had come here in 2017 to take care of my ankle fracture and that unfortunately was the last time I saw my dad and we spoke so much about my MIL blocking and giving us silent treatment. Honestly, I can't ever forgive her for that because during my parents stay that's all we talked about. She believes in "silent treatment" for punishing people.

My husband had strained relationship with his parents even before he knew me. Infact he didn't even tell his parents when we got married ( although they knew around which date it would be). My husband only reached out to his dad last year was because of the pandemic and told his parents about my daughter and dad. My MIL asked my daughter "when will she come to visit them with me and my mother?" My daughter obviously is a baby so was just crying around. Honestly I don't want to see them ever again and don't want my daughter to know them. My husband was talking to them on and off between March and August and then stopped again. I told him he can do whatever he wants, talk to them or not that's his choice. I don't my daughter and myself to do anything with them.

We haven't met them in person for more than 5 years now ever since we got traditionally married where they came

Am I being too harsh or insensitive?