My ex wants visitation after 7 years
My ex is a drug addict. We have a kid together who is 9. I was with him 6 years and he was struggling with addiction those years.
I got sole custody of the kids at 1 month. We tried a few times. After to make it work, and at 3years I waked away for good after seeing the tell tale sign of a relapse coming.
5 months later he relapsed. More drugs, more Petty crime. More jail.
Well, in may 2018 he pissed off the wrong person and got shot. He almost died.
Since then he claims he has been clean. I can't say for sure, but I do believe him. I know he's been clean the last year. We chatted last year for the first time in years. He mentioned it was in the works, but I didn't want to believe in.
He told me he has spoken to lawyers who stated he doesn't even need a lawyer because a judge would agree to supervised access.
I looked it up, and it looks like he does have a leg to stand on.
I talked to him for almost 3 hours today discussing it all and his plans. He told me that he would be serving me by mid June to get the ball rolling. It will take about 4 months to go to court. Then another 8 months to get into an access centre.
So total start to finish will be about a year. That gives him 3 years sober if he makes it. He told me he is doing his and we can either go through the court, but he's not going to fight me.. He just wants access, or we can figure it out on our own with me calling the shots within reason.
I have stated the following :
1. Visit at supervised access centre
2. Weekly drug tests submitted by a reputable company
3.takes 2 parenting classes
4. Pays for previsit therapy for the child
5. Revokes his visitation in the event of a failed drug test, or if he misses a visit without a valid excuse that çan be proven
6. Pays child support.
He agreed to it all. I told him I would have to seek a lawyer for counsel. If the lawyer says I have a leg to stand on, then I'll fight him, but I don't think there's much I can do.
Anyways, one turd in the shit pile.
My partner of 7 years has been the father to my kid since he was about 6. He calls him daddy. My ex knows this and says he doesn't want to take the father role, that he knows my partner had stepped up, but he wants to know his kid
My partner and I are not in a good spot right now in our relationship. He's a good dad tho.
I learned all of this as I took a vacay away for the weekend (first time ever). Anyways, I have to tell him and I'm scared shitless that he is going to lose it. I know he knew this was a possibility, but I guess we never expected it.
I'm so afraid to tell him. We have a child together and I'm afraid I'll lose her. I really wish he would be my partner through this, but I doubt it.
What do I do?
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