How much time does your significant other spend with your kids???

I'd like to know how much time does your spuse/Fiance/boyfriend spend with his kids?

The reason I ask is because I feel like my husband isn't spending as much time as he use to with them. We have 2 kids. A 4 year old girl and 2 year old boy. He has literally said he finds playing with them boring. He can't stand messy and complains if they get their toys everywhere. I guess he is stressed about finances and such. Like I said he doesn't like when things get messy, so in order to deal with it he doesn't deal with it. He basically hides away in his office and uses his computer, playing games or watching shows. So I'm left with the kids in the living room.

He says he wants his me time. I feel like he doesn't deal with it and this is a way to keep sane. I'm the one who has been putting the kids to bed at this last week. I feel like the only time he spends with them is when I'm at work. I feel like I don't see him play with them ever. He complains that when he does that they don't want to do what he suggest or they won't let him read to them.That they climb on him and beat him up.

He does do laundry and dishes. I do those things too, but I also put the laundry away. He does most of the cooking for dinner. He does clean up the living room sometimes. But he says he won't clean, because he would probably throw everything away.

For example like today he worked and I took care of the kids. I fell asleep giving the kids a nap. After we woke up,, it was time to eat. During dinner he was on his phone the whole(which he knows I hate, but still does it anyways because we are supposed to be eating not talking). After dinner I did all the dishes. The kids played in the living by themselves during that time. I have no idea what he was doing. I took the kids upstairs, so that I could fold clothes. He picked up the living room some. I feel like a bad mom because I feel like I spend a lot of time doing chores and not playing with them 😔. No idea what he was doing downstairs while we were upstairs. We dinked around upstairs and I got some pictures of them. I got them ready for bed and got them to sleep. Then I went on my run and came back inside and he was in bed asleep. I didn't really see my husband or have much of a conversation with him today. (I know that's another problem that needs work).

So I want to know if this is normal. Anything I should suggest for him?