**Please help and give advice**

Soooooo, I'll try to keep this short. My husband and I have two daughters. They are 12 years old and 10 months. Rewind back 10 months ago before our second daughter was born, we had no relationship or communication with my MIL due to several different reasons. One reason being is because she doesn't feel like our 12yr old is my husband's. 🙄 And she's mainly going off looks because she feel that her hair is not as fine as me and my husband's, and the fact that my husband and I are a tanner brown and our daughter is more cocoa brown stems some of her concern.

Also, may I add that her biggest issue is the fact I won't give HER a DNA test (which I'm not obligated to) so this makes her feel suspicious of me and like I have something to hide when in actuality I don't owe her shit and she knows this is her damn grandchild. She only wants me to have a DNA because my husband has a son by a different woman and there was DNA on that child per my husband! Well, my husband wasn't in a relationship with that woman and they were very young when that child was conceived (in other words, he did not know her like that. So of course he'd get a dna test. This isn't some fair train competition...test one and the test the other type thing. Nope.

My husband and I planned our child and know the night we conceived her. Plus, I'm not a known ho or loose woman and she know me and this girl are two separate type of women! Regardless, my husband never denied nor doubted our daughter but she still feels like I owe her a test. Smh ... Also, we wasn't together when the son was made. I was still in high school. Anyway, now we've had the new baby and she popped back up in our life and has tried to make things right and keep cordial with us because she wants to be apart of the baby's life. Well... What about our other daughter?! She knows you as her GM and she sees the love and interest that my MIL takes in her baby sister and this is effecting my daughter.

It's not right nor fair and I don't ever want my child to feel less than or mistreated! She wonders why my husband's mom doesn't show the same love and attention to her as she does for my step son and our ten month old. This is so hard and hurtful because I want all of us to be one big family, but I refuse to have my daughter feeling left out and unimportant. I also don't want to force my child off on no one. If she's gonna be loved and accepted I want it to authentic and genuine. My husband feels the same way I do and he's supportive in this situation. We kind of already had a talk with my MIL about our feelings and our daughter feelings as well, but she just doesn't show an interest. Her biggest interest is the baby. How can we tackle this? What should we do?