Hard time adjusting…

I’m having a hard time adjusting to being a mother of 3. I have a 3.5 yo, 2 yo, and a newborn. My 2 yo is doing just fine with the change, better than I thought. But my 3.5 year old isn’t doing great. It seems like her and I are having hard time connecting. She isn’t listening very well so I feel like I’m always scolding her and in turn she’s always mad at me. I’ve had to depend on my husband to take care of the big kids while I’m resting and recovering from delivery as well as breastfeeding. Now it seems she prefers her dad over me 😢 she doesn’t want much to do with me and like I said above, it seems like she’s always mad at me.

This is really hard for me because we’ve always been extremely close. I know this is a big change for her and emotionally she’s going through a lot, but I need to figure out how to navigate this. Has anyone been through this before and do you have any tips on how to get through it? I miss my daughter and the relationship we had before 😭