Feeling like a burden

I’m currently 33 weeks pregnant. Me and my partner have the same friends, a really close knit group of us.

They were having a party last night. The plan was to start off pre-drinking at one of their houses and then go to some bars and then finish off at the club.

Obviously I’m not drinking but I said I would try and come just to get out of the house and see everyone while I still can, I’ll come to the pre-drinking at the house and maybe some bars if I’m still feeling okay, but wouldnt be going to the club.

My partner all day yesterday was saying he wasnt going to be drinking, he would go to the pre-drinking as well maybe have a couple drinks and then come home with me. We also have lots of plans today including lunch with his parents and putting together nursery furniture so he didnt want to be hungover.

So we get to our friends house and my partner immediatly starts drinking lots and getting drunk. Although he said he wouldnt, I didnt really mind and said if he wants to stay out the whole night thats fine, I’ll drive home whenever I get too tired. He kept saying he wasnt getting that drunk and wouldnt be out all night. There was one point I started feeling a bit tired and he asked one of our not drunk friends to take me home. I said no, I was fine, didnt want to go home yet and would wait till he wants to leave so we can go home together like he said we would.

We then go to the first bar, he’s still saying hes not going to stay out all night and wont go to the club and will leave whenever I want to go. I was still feeling okay, and we then went to a 2nd bar. He was really drunk at this point, still telling me he wasnt going to go clubbing though. Some of my friends then said that hes been saying all night that he is staying out all night and will be going to the club with them all.. the opposite of what he’d been telling me all night. So I was pretty pissed with that. He then starts telling me to go home every 2 minutes. Keeps saying I should get myself a taxi home, or he’ll get one of his friends to walk me to my car that I’d parked near the bar (rather than walking me himself). I said I didnt want to go home, I was still feeling fine and why does he keep telling me to go home? Also I didnt want to go home by myself and he’d been telling me all night we’d go home together when I wanted to. He wouldnt stop, kept coming up to me constantly telling me to go home. I ended up getting upset as I felt like he didnt want me to be there and one of our friends ended up walking me back to my car and I went home by myself. He then came home at 3am after going to the club and slept on the sofa. So now hes too hungover to do any of the plans we had today.

I just feel like he wanted to go out clubbing all night all along, which is fine by me, he knows I dont have an issue with him going out and I want him to get it out his system before baby comes. But why tell me all day and even at the bars that he wasnt going to and that we’d go home together. If I knew he was going to go clubbing I probably would have left before they started going to the bars and got myself an early night. I felt like he really didnt want me to be there and had been lying to me all night. I dont know if its my pregnancy hormones or feeling left out, but I feel really upset. It also upset me because I’ve been pretty ill most of this pregnancy, and when our friends where asking how the pregnancys going he would say things like “horrendous” “shes always complaining” “she cant do anything for herself” “i have to do everything and its draining me”… he says it all in a funny way, we have that type of relationship where we take the piss out of each other and are mean about each other but we know and others know its in a funny way kind of thing.. but again with that as well, I just now feel really unwanted and a burden on him and that he clearly doesnt want me around. Am I being hormonal and getting upset over a minor thing?