My mother, men, and my chest

When a male family member comes over my mother always makes me wear a bra. I’m just now finding myself feeling uncomfortable around men in general because of this. I keep subconsciously thinking that all men are predatory in some way or something. I’m also slightly resenting my mom for making me feel this way towards men. Right now I’m wearing some leggings that are hugging my booty and I’m thinking if i should cover up some more. I feel like I can’t be comfortable around my OWN FAMILY who shouldn’t be acting in a predatory way in the first place. Telling me to cover up just puts the blame on me right? You don’t have to bring these family members over. Kick them out or let me not wear a bra and relax in MY OWN HOME. I’m only 14 and I could be wrong but something feels so off about the way my mom is going about this.

My mother is so for women empowerment it’s so weird that she is in a way saying that you should cover up around men if you don’t want to be assaulted. That’s not even how it works. Predatory men and rapists do what they do regardless or what you are wearing. Nothing I wear can prevent that from happening. My mom can do something though! KICK THEM OUT. And my mom knows my male family members would never do anything like that to anybody so I don’t get why she’s doing this.

I asked my sister why mom does this and she said something like “they don’t hold men accountable for their actions so we have to cover up” or something like that. Okay.. so instead of standing up and speaking out on this you are going to allow these predatory monsters to roam around and control women. Ok. Understood. Fair.