Holiday dinner times, drama .. rude hubby

I hate when both sides of the family’s holiday dinners are on the same day near the same time. It always causes rushing and stress. Today, my husband is way out of line. Tell me that this isn’t disrespectful!

My side of the family’s was set for 1:30. When we got there, my mom said that one of my aunts and my grandma were together but running late. So it started around 2:15ish. My husbands side of the family’s was set for 2:00 but at 2:45 one of his cousins said she wasn’t even there yet. At 2:30 my husband was like, I’m going on to my side. I said no, I’ll hurry and eat some here. And I did. So when we left at 3, he starts going OFF on me telling me that I am fake and a b**** and I made him miss his family’s dinner (no bro, I didn’t. ) And mind you, the weeks leading up to this day he kept telling me he wasn’t sure if he was even going to his side’s. The family members that I typically communicate with on his side weren’t in attendance because they feel rushed and so they stayed home having their own little dinner. I mentioned doing that next year and he went off on that too saying you’re not telling me I’m not going. Wow. Okay just a suggestion to diminish the freaking holiday dinner wars. Anyway, he literally cussed me and forbid me to go with him to his sides. He drove me and my daughter home and immediately left. He left us home alone on a holiday. To go to his sides dinner. Yep, without us. WHY would a husband act this way and leave us behind? Holidays to me you spend with your kids and spouse…you don’t leave them behind after cussing profusely. He even told me he wanted a divorce! Guys. He doesn’t even go around his family any. After we moved from that county, we just don’t go down there. And he’s fine with it because he says they’re “gossipers” and “crazy” well, I am damn sure they’ll be gossiping today since he is showing up without us! His mom is also big buddies again w/ his ex wife out of nowhere. So there’s that. He also refused to take a family picture for me or just a pic of us together. Yet he posed for pictures with the family members on his side.

He doesn’t respect me and doesn’t have me as a priority, and he definitely proved that.

EDITED to answer question— we didn’t plan the times. My mom did and his aunt. He said he wasn’t sure if he wanted to even go to his family’s. Decided last night I guess. But said that we would go to my moms first since it was set to start first. And stay an hour, then stay there an hour.