Coparenting help

My daughter is 5yrs old and her dad has not been an active parent. He has narcissistically abused me for 6yrs. When him and I would be on good terms he still wasn’t a good father. He would ask to see me out but wouldn’t come around and help.

I have finally cut him out of my life personally and I’m torn on what to do coparenting wise. He only asks to coparent when he wants to argue and say “I’m keeping his kid from him”

He doesn’t financially help at all and hasn’t in 4yrs. She also isn’t comfortable around him or know him. He parties every night and is not around. He stays up til 10am everyday and sleeps through the entire day til evening. His lifestyle is not compatible for kids and when he wants his kid it’s to bring her around whatever girl he is sleeping with.he makes it seem like I’m some bitter baby mama but I’ve tried so hard to have him develop a relationship with her so he can have her on his own but he thinks I should just give her to him. She’s vocalized that she doesn’t want to bc her dad “doesn’t understand her or care about her” according to her.

It sucks bc I defend him to her and say he’s working super hard right now and he loves her but she’s getting older and she’s not stupid.

Last night he texted me asking if I’m still mad at him and then when I didn’t give him the forgiveness he wanted he brought up coparenting and wants to have a conversation today. What do I say? Am I being a bitter baby mama or is this not a good situation for a child? I just don’t feel comfortable him having her on his own right now. I don’t think it’s the best decision to make as a parent

What do I say to him? How do I maintain boundaries without being called a bitter baby mama or keeping his kid from him? I know he’s not going to try hard to see her and he doesn’t want the actual responsibility but it gives me anxiety so bad I was shaking last night