Bedtime for 1 year old?

Starting around 3 months old, we introduced the current bedtime we have for our 12 month old. She goes to bed 7:00-7:20pm and we get her up at 7:00am. Sometimes she wakes as early as 6:00am but is happy to play in her crib and may dose off again before 7am. This has made our lives so much more functional! Both my husband and I work full time so we really needed to have her on a schedule for things to be manageable for us and for daycare.

We live on the East Coast and are traveling to Central Time Zone for 2 weeks to visit my family for Christmas. They have already begun teasing me and complaining about my child’s bedtime disrupting the flow of activities they want to do for the holidays. In order to avoid our lives being a living hell when we return to work, I’m planning on keeping her Eastern Time schedule which means she’ll go to bed at 6pm Central Time. We’ve visited this side of the family once before and keeping her bedtime consistent made the trip go so much better.

We are not asking anyone to change their Christmas plans at all, but if the family has events they want to do after 6pm we have told them that’s ok but that we will need to put her to bed and that they can still have the activity without us. We are trying to be accommodating and not make a big fuss but I really want to keep her bedtime consistent. They roll their eyes and tell me I’m being too rigid and unreasonable. I’m trying to be respectful but feel like it’s my kid and I need to make as many things consistent on the trip as possible so she adjusts well when we come home. It’s a huge trip (15 hour car ride split over 2 days) and it’s really stressful. Just trying to make life more manageable for us when we return. Am I being unreasonable? How do y’all manage bedtime when on extended trips with a little one? Thank you!