How to help a friend in ⚠️ Danger

Hello everyone!

I just need some advice, and maybe some of you can relate and give back some of the tips that helped you escape or help a friend.

I have a lifelong friend.

She has been diagnosed with ADHD, Bipolar, and I always remember her being prescribed different medications to see what would fit. Nothing is wrong with her but she doesn’t always make well-thought-out choices.

She met a guy about 3 years ago when she was working as an « accountant », and very soon after that she became pregnant with her first daughter, who is now 2 years old.

During her pregnancy she was shoved by him and DCF got involved.

This guy is really bad news, he was a felon, threatened her family, friends, herself, and pushes his infidelities on her (ie, accusing her of cheating because that’s what he does to her, and justifies himself because of her past, which is irrelevant) None the less, he is very dangerous.

She just had her second child by him, and DCF has warned her to keep this guy away from herself because he is bringing violence around the kids. she called DCF on herself to remove her kids from her own care, after he had strangled her and left marks and bruises around her neck.

He should be going to jail for kidnapping charges (throwing her in the trunk of her own car while pregnant) She’s too scared to fully testify, because she is putting herself in more danger.

DCF has taken her kids into her mother’s custody after he weaseled his way back in to her house and destroyed it. That is the current situation now.

She is fully aware that he is bad news. She’s fully aware this can kill her. She’s aware that the kids should not be around her and him because they are completely in a dangerous situation.

I can hope that her kids being removed from her custody can be an eye opener. But is there anything that I can do to help her remove him from her life?

In a perfect world I would pack her family up and move far away but she relies on her mom a lot when it comes to caring for the kids, because you guessed it- this guy even when he is around doesn’t financially support or physically support his own children. If she files for child support he will go after her so she doesn’t want to cause more of a mess for herself.

Thanks to anyone who can offer advice. I’m a concerned friend.