Baby shower gift

I wasn’t sure where to put this… my husband’s cousin had a baby shower in March of last year. I was unable to go because I just found out I was pregnant and I had terrible morning sickness. I wasn’t able to keep anything down. So I got her a bunch of stuff off her registry to make up for it. Some outfits she wanted and a few other things.

We had our baby shower in August for ours. I sent out invites and some people including her said they didn’t get them but said they wanted to come. So I created a Facebook page so there was another thing they could get the info from and sent out digital invites so we could get a final number too. It said she read the invite but no response. Two weeks before the shower I sent a reminder and it said she read it again. She never came.

So recently she was messaging me on Facebook messenger and talking about her son. We were talking about the holidays and the conversation turned towards her baby shower and how the 1 year for it is coming up (she mentioned it). I asked her how her son liked the outfits we got him and if they were good quality. I told her how sorry I was for not being able to come but I was happy to have sent her something for her bundle.

Then we talked about mine. I acted like I didn’t know anything because I didn’t want to be rude. But I was upset with her. I know you should give without receiving but she never got anything for our daughter. Also, she’s been selling off things people got her for her shower on her Facebook which has actually hurt a lot of family members feelings because they were really expensive items she wanted.

I didn’t say anything but I feel kind of used. I guess I learned a lesson from it though. I wasn’t expecting a pricey gift or anything. If anything I just would have enjoyed her company at the shower. I’m not extremely upset about it. Just more like “well that sucks.”

Side note: my brother passed away in June unexpectedly, and tragically. I had posted during Christmas how I miss him and wish my daughter could have met him. She told me that she went through the same trauma when her son was born was born last year and how her sister didn’t meet her son till he was 5 months old because of COVID. Her sister is still living and was just social distancing from her so she doesn’t get her son sick. I don’t think that’s even on the same relatable level at all.