Should I stay or leave?

Question

Me and my husband have a 2 year old together and lately our marriage has been far from satisfying (at-least on my part) he has randomly started giving me attitude for no reason and when I ask him what I did to deserve the attitude he just says “he’s mentally exhausted from deleting over 300 photos on his phone because it was taking up his phone storage” he proceeded to tell me he was sorry but was still giving attitude while apologizing and I just don’t know what to do. I told him just because he’s mentally exhausted doesn’t give him the right to be an asshole i feel like when I look back on our relationship I can tell that he cares for me but I’m pretty sure he might be mixing lust and love. I care for him but I’m not in love with him anymore and I have even tried to mention couples counseling but he just gets mad and says “well if you think that’s what needs to be done then fine”  with attitude and nothing ever gets done about it on his end but he’s not even happy about me mentioning therapy because he thinks I think he’s crazy and needs help which I think he does need to go back to therapy because he doesn’t know how to cope with anger he literally runs off to smoke his vape and or goes to take a shower. I don’t know why I put up with this crap… we live together and work at the same place…

Answer

You both sound childish in this. If you want to go to counseling and he says fine but you don’t put up to make it happen can you truly be mad.  It seems like you are trying to find a way out.  Ain’t nothing in the other side that’s better. It all sucks. And marriage is working through things. Find out y’all problem and work it out mama. Or leave your choice.

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You two should be trying to work on your problems with a counselor- that’s what marriage is. Work and love. Trying and compromising. Communicating and listening. Giving up when there’s trouble is not what you signed up for when you chose marriage. 
Get some help. Communicate with him; say the two of you need help to make this marriage healthy. Talk to him about how you feel. Do not accuse, invalidate or get angry when he shares feelings. That isn’t fair and doesn’t work. Your feelings are just as valid as his. His feelings are just as valid as yours.

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It’s gonna be hard to leave him if u work and live together. I think u should consider looking at your options as far as a plan when u leave him. You’re saying therapy is out of the questions for him, so that ideas out the window. And you also said u aren’t in love w him youre just in lust. Life’s too short to put up with BS and be miserable. Especially if you have kids u don’t want them settling for the things u did when they become grown.

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Have you set up any counseling appointments? If you're the one who really wants it, it's on you to get things on the calendar. I'm sorry you feel like you're the only one doing things, but at the same time, we only have your side of the story. His perception might be completely different and he's not here to defend himself. I wouldn't just end the marriage because the two of you are having difficulty communicating right now. All relationships have rough patches. That's where the hard work of commitment comes in and the rubber meets the road on your marriage vows - for better and for worse and all that. You're experiencing a bit of the worse right now. Every couple goes through that, usually more than once. Sometimes it takes one person making all the advances to get things moving. Despite the popular adage that marriage is 50/50, it's not. Both partners should be giving 100%, but it doesn't work like that either. Sometimes it's 80/20 or 90/10. That's when you have to decide if you're going to put in the work or walk away, but walking, while it may look like easy freedom, isn't always the best option.

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