I’m unsure about my relationship.

For context, my boyfriend and I (23 and 26) have been together for over 4 years now.

For the past 4/5 months or so I’ve been questioning the relationship and found myself kind of detaching. I just feel like over the past 6 months to a year I’ve been growing and changing a lot as a person and started to question myself, my sexuality and if I was outgrowing the relationship too.

My boyfriend picked up on this and a couple of nights ago brought it up and asked if something was wrong or if I just wasn’t attracted to him anymore, we haven’t been intimate at all for months, and if he does try, I’ve been pushing him off because I just haven’t felt like it. I didn’t realise that he was being impacted so much as he doesn’t really talk about his feelings but it seems like he’s been pretty stressed out when I didn’t even know that he sensed anything was up. He said that he wants what’s best for both of us and to figure things out so that we can go from there. I told him that I need a few days to think but now there’s just a constant pit in my stomach because I truly don’t know what I want or how I feel.

I feel like no matter what I do I’ll end up wondering if I did the right thing. I know only I can really know what to do but any advice or thoughts would be appreciated. I don’t want to throw 4 years away for nothing but I don’t want to stay in this relationship and drag him along if I don’t think I can be 100% in it in the long run. He loves me so much and I hate the idea of hurting him, and a part of me is worried that I’d never find someone who loves me as much as he does too, I know that sounds bad.