? Is he being real or playing games

I’ve been seeing this guy for about five-ish months and we’ve only hung out at his apartment but we I haven’t been intimate or anything only kissing

(thought I would put that in there because I don’t want to get comments saying he’s just using me for sex because we’re not having sex)

We’ve been having like a rough patch because we don’t know how to communicate very well and it seems like we only communicate this type of conversation over text and not in person but the next time I see him I’m gonna bring it up on my own I don’t care. We’ve been really struggling on figuring out what we are to each other on his end he wants to be in a relationship but he wants his next relationship to be his last so he’s not saying that we’re in a relationship and doesn’t want to rush and ruin anything.

(he’s a really nice guy so I think I know why he saying it but also my anxiety is making me think the bad part.)

On one hand I think he say he wants his next relationship to be his last and he’s not committing that to me is because he doesn’t think I’m serious enough to want to be with him long-term. And I can’t tell him that that’s what I want because you never know five years down the line we could totally get sick of each other so I just don’t understand why he thinks his next relationship is going to be his last that’s not how life works. And on the other hand he could be saying he doesn’t wanna relationship because he doesn’t like me enough to want the relationship to be serious and last and I can’t figure out which one it is.

So this brings me to today when I texted him and was like do you want to end things and he said only if you wanna and I responded with. (He’s been working 11 hour days so it’s been hard trying to see him)

I mean this has been like an ongoing argument for like a month and a half of me trying to get him to tell me what he wants for me what he sees us doing and he’s just not giving me much… what are your guy’s opinion on the things he says should I believe him or do you think he’s just bullshitting me? He’s been in for relationships and I’ve been in technically one but also technically zero. I know for a lot of men they suppress their feelings and emotions and especially for him he had something go down in his past relationships where he just doesn’t want to open up about anything to me I feel like he is so afraid of saying or doing anything that’s going to make me disappear on him he is very very reserved.