Is he telling the truth? Don’t know what to do…

I have been on a relationship for 4 years now, but me and my boyfriend both travel a lot because of work, so we send photos and videos constantly and have 2 homes in 2 diferentes countries.

Last week I saw a girl come out of my house through the security camera….

That day my boyfriend barely communicated with me, which is odd… but I just thought he must be very busy (which he normally is). By night time he said he was having dinner out with our neighbor (male) to discuss a situation about his dogs.

It keeps getting later and I see no messages.

usually, when he goes out to dinner he sends pictures of his food or the person he is with. But since no communication or picture was coming and I just felt this thing inside of me.. I checked his location and he was HOME. So I go check our cameras and I can hear voices inside, but oh surprise, our living room camera is off and all the rest on. So I hear voices, but I can’t tell if it’s neighbors or ours..

I text him that I wanna go to bed, but hear his voice first. He said to give him 10 mins. 9 mins go by I say “hey”, He asks if it’s urgent, that I should give him 10 mins. And I just point to the message of “10 mins” he sent before.

Next thing I know, I see him come out the back door of our house, meaning he was inside the whole time. Next thing I see is a girl come out the front door of the house. (Opposite direction he had taken)

He sends a text message saying he just got home and He starts calling me, I keep my cool, I asked what was happening ? He said he was busy and he just needed to finish the meeting. I said I was checking the cameras and he was home, so why would he lye ? He said “it’s weird, cus he just entered home…” And then I told him “I saw the girl… “ I told him to explain to me, he just said “oh no, now you won’t believe me”

Then i said he was a cheater, I could see her leave the house, I said I felt betrayed. Then he said he could explain, that there was this guy he hired to cut the grass, but then he started stalking him, that he even went to the police, that’s this guy was asking for more mamey all the time. And this girl was the wife or something like that…

I know about the existence of the weird guy… I saw him once (months ago) delete a message about being worried about a guy lying to get more money saying family was sick.

(The question in my head was, why now ? If the situation with this guy, that’s made you go to the police happened, why didn’t you tell me then. )

You say you are out of the house, you are clearly in side and with a girl and all of sudden she is the wife of this guy, but you don’t know her and you don’t have her contact, then how dud she made it home ? Why was she there so late at night ?

He just accused me of cheery picking facts, being upset and irrational and that we should talk tomorrow when I’m calm… and if he was really doing something he wouldn’t just turn off one of the cameras…

So I told him we were done and blocked him.

A part of me wanted him to prove me wrong and wanted him to go out of his way to reach me out and try “explain”

All I got was 3 messages 3 days apparat “I miss you” “ I hope we can talk soon” “I know you want distance but *uck I really miss you”

It’s been almost 2 weeks, 3 days ago I sent him an email saying how in felt and that we should talk.

2 days later no reply. I go out of my way unblock send the same mail to his WhatsApp he replies saying he didn’t see the email “of curse I want to talk”

Later he send me a message asking for 2 more days, (of course I said it was unfair, but he insisted) that he is an emotional mess and we would fight if we speak. That he is afraid to talk to me, afraid of what I’ll say…

Tomorrow if I gather the strength I’ll talk to him.

I don’t know what to do, think or say…

We were even talking Marrige for a month now, finding dates and what country to do it..

If you read all the way here, thank you. 🙏🏾 I never opened up like this before, but I’m confused and want some external voices