My wife wants to be pregnant so bad she’s neglecting our 3 yr old

Me and My wife have been married for 11 years same sex

I started my Ttc journey in 2012 I finally conceived in 2017 after trying for 5 years and we now have a 3 year old son

My wife has been trying to conceive since 2019 and she has yet conceived

My wife is becoming obsessed with conceiving that she wants to leave the marriage and find a man to settle down with because she can’t be around me because I have conceived and she hasn’t.

I want my wife to conceive I support her wanting to move out and move in with her boyfriend of 2months

The problem I have is this pregnancy thing is consuming her she’s neglected our 3 year old I feel like I already live alone she never helps with our son… she cut his umbilical cord she even signed his birth certificate she was there with the pregnancy every step of the way

Even though she had me paying all the bills during my pregnancy because i was pregnant and she wasn’t I still understood why she was depressed but it’s been 3 years now

I have to beg her to do Simple things.

I have to beg her to clean half the house while I clean the other half ever chance she gets she takes my car to see her boyfriend

She gets mad if I tell her to replace the gas in the car

She always saying out loud in front of our son” why can’t I have a child, why can’t I get pregnant”

I keep telling her I understand her pain I was in her shoes but our son can hear you I don’t want him to feel like he’s not enough

Everytime he mess behaves she’s always threatening to send him off

I keep telling her he’s 3 sending him off won’t change his behavior at home

I keep telling her that but she’s always like he needs to be around a man

Our son has a host of uncles and a biological father “a friend we used as a donor but he’s not responsible for the child unless he wants to help everything is in writing” that love spending time with him but sending him off because he won’t listen isn’t the answer he’s 3 for crying out loud and he’s our son not anyone else responsibility

So just a few minutes ago our son said “ I’m not your child MaMa I’m mommy’s child”

She got offended and told him it hurt her feelings and I told her how do you think he feels when all u talk about is getting pregnant

“I’m mommy the one writing this rant”

She just found out 5 months ago she has herpes “I tested negative for herpes”

both of her tubes are blocked and she has fibroids

So I understand her frustration but it’s not ok to neglect a child

“We are not poly she wants a man so they can be intimate so she can get pregnant I love her so I accept her decision she said she will find a place for her n her man soon