Please give me advice. I don’t even know what to title this.

So I’ve talked about this before in this group about my mother-in-law and I’srelationship.

I don’t feel like I wanna start from the beginning just know it’s been a very long road with a lot of highs and a lot of Lows.

Recently my son went into anaphylactic shock. Before we left to go to the hospital because his face was swelling up she told me it was no big deal and to give him some Benadryl. That alone made me a little frustrated and she made me feel like I was overreacting about the situation when my son literally was breaking out in hives his face was beet red and his eyes were swollen shut. To make a long story short when we got home from the hospital that night she was there. She kept asking me all Elise questions that I honestly had no interest in answering, so I told her I just wanted to go to bed. She proceeded to stop around my house and slam my front door while my children were sleeping in the middle of the night. 

 that was my final straw I told my fiancé I will no longer allow her in my home and he needs to speak with her. He did speak with her and explain to her that her actions were wrong and it was all good but now she wants to talk to me. She wants to discuss our relationship. We were supposed to talk the next day but sadly we ended up with Covid so I haven’t seen her for two weeks and my fiancé hasn’t gone to their family business that his father owns in all in two weeks also. So he hasn’t seen his mom and dad in a while.

Today he went into work for the first time after we were sick, and he called me on his lunch break. He began to tell me that his father took a job hours away and they need to spend a few nights in a hotel to finish the job. Mind you they have never done something like this they work on hardwood floors. So I didn’t think anything of it and hung up the phone. I called my mother and she brought up the fact that his mother doesn’t sleep anywhere without his father so that means she’ll be going on the trip with them. I feel like she plotted this because I haven’t spoken to her yet and she hasn’t seen much of her son since she acted in such an immature way in our home. She’s very open about the fact that she is possessive over her grown children and where is it like a badge of honour. So I don’t think it’s out of her nature to try and spite me by taking him at town for a few days.

The trip is not the concern I’m having here, what I’m wondering is how should I approach the conversation with my mother-in-law about how we’re going to proceed with our relationship because I am so fed up after this.

I feel like it shouldn’t be a competition with my fiancé‘s own mother we are a family and we should act that way. She always brings up to my fiancé that he’s on the wrong side or that he’s not on her side when personally I don’t believe there should be sides in a family and the fact that she thinks that way disgust me someone please help me calm down.

Oh and I forgot the best part. They’re leaving 3 days before our anniversary and our sons first birthday.