Planned pregnancy , unplanned heart condition

Hey, My name is Pamela, and i am a mother of 3 children. We planned our 2nd baby together (i had one already before him) in July 2021. I conceived August 2nd, 2021. We were so happy and excited. October 8th, we had our first appointment. I was 9 weeks, 4 days. We came up with a unisex first name , but we knew he would be a boy. I had a gut feeling. At the end of the month, we learned by DNA test that he was (is) a boy. He couldn’t be happier. I was 24, he was 29. However, he drank to take the edge off alot after work , ate bad foods and suffered from high blood pressure. We started to make changes that can make us healthier, especially him.

On November 18th, our lives were soon to change. We both worked that day, and later we made plans to go to the gym with the kids. We went and got some work in… and then it happened…. He went into SVT.. he nearly had a stroke. It was what would become the worst night of our lives. He soon after learned he had developed nonischemic Cardiomyopathy and was in heart failure. Things started to fall apart. He couldn’t work, he can never work as a truck driver again if he wants to stay improving and live stress free . We went from making nearly $100,000 in a year together, to living off of his short term disability and my low wages. Things haven’t been the same. Finances, his mental health, my emotional health are in shambles. No matter how much his health improves, he will always be on medication for it. Now that I’m on maternity leave, its hard. The pregnancy became depressing because i was and still am so worried about his health and happiness. I feel blessed to have my 3 healthy babies, i just sometimes feel like the universe has a vendetta against us. Hes a great person, so many people drink way more than he did, for way longer and were worse people and still have no organs in failure or no serious issues. It makes me angry, sad, scared, stressed out.. i just keep hoping and praying it gets better.

Has anyone on here gone through a similar pain? Does anyone else have to worry about the father of their child’s health? Does anyone else have this fear of losing him to a condition that can never fully get rid of? How do you cope? How does he?