Who to live with. Advice please.

Guys I’m at such a loss ugh help.

Okay so I posted awhile ago asking for advice on how to deal with my partners family as I found out they think terribly of me. My partner and I have a five month old baby girl and basically my partner and I live with my mother as there’s a spare room for us and our baby. Love it here but the cons are it’s rather small and a bit of a drive to get anywhere. At my partners parents it’s much more spacious and walking distance to my work. (which I start again in a month) Downsides to moving there is I’m expected to be okay with our baby sleeping with us in the garage. Uhmm NO. And I’m also not okay with her sleeping in another room as me. :/

I understand that there is pros and cons to living in both places for example.

Downside to living with my mum is no personal space, far from shops and work. Upside is my mum is SUCH a great help and my mental is way more positive here.

Downside to living at my partners parents is they are quite strict in their ways and it’s been hard to ask things of them like to not vape near my daughter for example. My partners brother and sister also live there so it’s a full house and I get overwhelmed by them all quite easy and I know it sounds selfish but i truely don’t trust any of them with my daughter. Oh yeah and also my partner and I will be in the garage so where the hell would our daughter go.

One last thing to add my partner has been zero help… like at all. His excuse is he works full time, has to travel far, suffers from ADHD. He games in his free time. The reason I’m even considering moving in with his parents is that he promised he will try be helpful when we live there as his mental will be better.

Writing this out was so embarrassing omg. I’m 20 with a five month old girl and I get no help from my partner. His family think bad of me and I start work soon which is just across the road from his parents house.

Siiighhh please don’t be harsh I bully myself enough lmao.