My husbands Philisophy on “gender roles” 🙄 HELP

My husband and I are both fortunate to have great careers and high paying jobs. I work entirely remote since Covid and he works hybrid remote and commutes.

We have a 3 year old, a 2 year old and I literally just found out I’m pregnant again last week. With Covid cases rising again in our area, our daycare (where we send our kids full time) as been closing for weeks at a time.

I have been primary care giver, stay at home mom and working full time. My husband does not lift a finger with the kids home and gets to work peacefully in our home office.

I’ve told him countless times I’m ready to be a stay at home mom. I have literal heart palpitations being a full time mom and trying to keep my job. I told him if he’s unavailable to parent I want to quit my job and be a SAHM, of which we could totally afford to do. His response was that I won’t live off his dime and it would make me a spoiled brat. I then in return told him how spoiled are you, you have two children you barely lift a finger for. Well, that backfired - he hasn’t spoken to me at all today.

This week has been the worst juggling both and finding out I’m pregnant. I can feel myself diving into depression. Suggestions?