Feeling down and need advice

I battle with mental health. A guy I like that I’ve been intimate with for over two years recently wanted to transition into something more. I can get attached and I’m aware of that but I’m trying to see if I need to cut ties or what.

1) he expressed his desire for me to lose weight and being more healthy. He wants to show me off. He is also skinny. But he said more men will desire me if I tone up as well. (I Took that wrong) got offended. But didn’t show it.

2) he expects me to do things I’d do if we were in a committed relationship like cooking dinner/meals.

3)he says he’s attracted to me I’m pretty, just need to tone up, likes my ambition and the vibe we share.

I just feel manipulated because we’ve been discussing moving into a more serious relationship he came over last night we had sex, discussed starting a family, and he finished in me. Im not worried about pregnancy because of concerns with my fertility but just the act itself and the potential is enough.

I feel like I’m a hopeless romantic. I’ve been single over 3 years and my last relationship I was engaged. I expressed needing that emotional and physical security and communication. Today I sent a few text throughout the day no response. But he’s online. And I try to be conscious on not being a overwhelming partner but I feel simply acknowledging me isn’t hard. He said he doesn’t want to feel controlled and doesn’t want me to come on strong and to take it slow. I’ll insert text if needed to better show how conversations flow because I may need some guidance and constructive criticism.