I just want to vent, sometimes I really hate how my husband is

I was cooking dinner and asked him to watch the baby (9 months) while I cook dinner... it took me about 45 minutes start to finish. Keep in mind he rarely ever watches her, I'm a SAHM and he works two jobs (one regular job, then he owns his own business). Only time he watches her is for max 1 hour if I have an appointment or like now if I have to cook and have my hands full. Well I'm making burgers on the stove so I can't have her with me because I usually have her in the baby carrier or high chair but the burger grease pops everywhere and I don't want her around it.

Well his version of watching was just holding her with one hand and scrolling his phone with the other. Not a problem only she begins crying because she's not being engaged with and she can see me in the other room cooking and wants to go to me. I tell him please try to play with her. I can't bring her over here the grease is popping off the stove.

He whines that hes too tired then he proceeds to "play" with her for 30 seconds by smashing the buttons on her toys trying to get her attention. She crawls away and is at the baby gate that leads to the kitchen hysterically crying. I'm like can you please get her my hands are full! He's scrolling his phone and half ass calls her then says "let her cry it out!"

I'm not going to let my child literally WATCH me ignore her?? Like wtf are you talking about??? At this point my daughter is having a full blown meltdown and I am so fucking stressed I literally start crying. And before you ask no he would not switch roles with me and cook dinner instead. Because i know him so well and everytime i said please play with her, please take her outside, please engage with her, he would blow up saying hes too tired to do any of that. Long story short we end up arguing because I told him try to give her a bottle maybe she's hungry and he holds up the middle finger to me and says you make it. Then complains saying I didn't have to make a full course meal he would have been happy with just a lean cuisine. Saying how he didn't ask me to make dinner and how if I wanted to cook I could have done something easier like in the air frier. So you mean make YOUR life easier so you don't have to engage with your child cause I don't mind cooking! Sometimes I really hate this man!!! I don't really care who's right and whos wrong. If yall don't argee with how I handled it idc I don't need to be attacked im just so fucking sad right now like why the stupidest shit turns into an argument. I understand he works a lot and hes tired but it was just 45 minutes! And I don't ask for his help with her ever! This is like a once a week thing! And I'm so hurt because I hate yelling in front of my daughter , that's what tore me up the most. Again I don't need to be attacked I just want to get this off my chest I hate this so much!