I want to try something new in the bedroom

I don’t know what to try. I mean there’s a million options because I haven’t done much.

I like rough sex and so my bf and I have done stuff down that route. But like with my ex, I obviously liked rough sex then too. And he would like tie my up and play around with ice and stuff. And idk how to bring that up with my current bf that I like that stuff.

But aside from that. Any suggestions? I’m not quite ready to bring toys into the equation. Like maybe a vibrator? I have one but I’ve never used it with someone else bc I feel bad that they don’t get anything out of it too